No offense, but any guy you talk to about this is going to say the same thing the above two did. And why is that? Because men understand women about as much as women understand men, which essentially means that they don’t at all. It’s not about using it against you later, although it will seem like that. Women don’t want to have to compel action from men, they want you to do it on your own. They also have a tendency to tend to everyone else’s needs except their own. She said that to you because she probably thinks that you’d rather be there than with her. And the last thing she wants is to force you to stay with her because it would take any of the meaning of you being there away. It’s a decision you need to make. Putting that decision on her. What is she supposed to say, yeah I want you to stay for my birthday. Why would she have to even ask that? I understand that fantasy football is important to you and I know how guys are with sports, but is it worth creating a situation where you just made your girl feel like she means nothing to you?
At the same time I will admit that I do think women need to be more honest about their needs because when they aren’t it leads to these types of confusion.
I realize that you may think that I am biased, and honestly I am in the sense that I do know what she is feeling. You may not understand why she feel that way, but I am telling that this is exactly what is going on. And you should know as well as I do how much she hates showing her emotions.
You’re never going to completely understand how intertwined her emotional and logical psyche are. And she’s never going to understand how your logic works. This will always be a point of contention. It is in all relationships. The key is to realize this anf think about it when shit like this happens. You could think about how you laying this on her makes her feel and how it looks to have trying to make her make this decision. And she can think about how you didn’t really get a chance to think it through first and all. In the end though, it’s you who has to decide what is more important to you. I know it’s past and I know I have said way too much for you probably, but I just see these issues way to often and it is incredibly frustrating to me that people don’t ever seem to be able to make these observations. I suppose it is a lack of objectivity. Anyways, let me know if this made sense to you and if not what and why. I am extremely interested in helping people develop better understanding and critical thinking skills in general and I need the feed back on whether or not it was helpful at all.
its a setup, dawg!!
By: Grunden on August 26, 2009
at 1:09 pm
I hope you didnt go, it is a setup.
By: Jerl on August 30, 2009
at 1:36 am
No offense, but any guy you talk to about this is going to say the same thing the above two did. And why is that? Because men understand women about as much as women understand men, which essentially means that they don’t at all. It’s not about using it against you later, although it will seem like that. Women don’t want to have to compel action from men, they want you to do it on your own. They also have a tendency to tend to everyone else’s needs except their own. She said that to you because she probably thinks that you’d rather be there than with her. And the last thing she wants is to force you to stay with her because it would take any of the meaning of you being there away. It’s a decision you need to make. Putting that decision on her. What is she supposed to say, yeah I want you to stay for my birthday. Why would she have to even ask that? I understand that fantasy football is important to you and I know how guys are with sports, but is it worth creating a situation where you just made your girl feel like she means nothing to you?
At the same time I will admit that I do think women need to be more honest about their needs because when they aren’t it leads to these types of confusion.
I realize that you may think that I am biased, and honestly I am in the sense that I do know what she is feeling. You may not understand why she feel that way, but I am telling that this is exactly what is going on. And you should know as well as I do how much she hates showing her emotions.
You’re never going to completely understand how intertwined her emotional and logical psyche are. And she’s never going to understand how your logic works. This will always be a point of contention. It is in all relationships. The key is to realize this anf think about it when shit like this happens. You could think about how you laying this on her makes her feel and how it looks to have trying to make her make this decision. And she can think about how you didn’t really get a chance to think it through first and all. In the end though, it’s you who has to decide what is more important to you. I know it’s past and I know I have said way too much for you probably, but I just see these issues way to often and it is incredibly frustrating to me that people don’t ever seem to be able to make these observations. I suppose it is a lack of objectivity. Anyways, let me know if this made sense to you and if not what and why. I am extremely interested in helping people develop better understanding and critical thinking skills in general and I need the feed back on whether or not it was helpful at all.
By: Jennifer on September 10, 2009
at 3:48 am